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Audrey Marlene's YES Ezine
March 15, 2010

What Defines You?

March 2010 Ezine

Many of us allow ourselves to be defined by our achievements, talents, occupation, income, physical appearance, or circumstances. Some allow themselves to be defined by what they perceive others may think of them. But the defining question is who are you without all the window dressing?

The way we navigate through life, from business to relationships to our faith and unquestionably our sense of self depends upon how we feel about who we believe we truly are. Some of us have had difficulties such as emotional lacerations, financial setbacks, or a devastating loss. But in spite of your circumstances you can never define your life and your future by your present day circumstances.

The only way to answer this question is by looking inside to introspect and self-reflect. Many people avoid self-examination to consider their internal state or feelings maybe because they are afraid of what they will discover if they probe too deep. Being honest with ourselves can be very difficult. But in order to grow, honest introspection is a necessity. It gives us the opportunity to recognize who we are, accept who we are or make the changes we need to become the man or woman we were born to be.

What truly defines us is our character. It has been molded by your experiences and circumstances and the beliefs, lessons and wisdom learned along the way. The true test of our character is revealed in our interaction and attitude towards others when no one is watching. It is how we deal with the things in life that are beyond our control. Itís the compassion for others without expecting anything in return. It is standing up for what it right even when you may be unpopular. And most importantly, true character is not something we are born with. Itís something we have to work at every day by the choices we make, the courage we exemplify and the indomitable spirit we adopt. So go ahead, can you tell what defines you?

To Your Success,
Audrey Marlene

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