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Audrey Marlene's YES Ezine
July 16, 2009

Perception is Everything

July 2009 Newsletter

The way we perceive situations or circumstances determines how we will react or respond to it. There is so much talk nowadays about changing one’s negative thought patterns. All the hype is warranted and should be taken seriously. However, what if someone is unaware that the perceptive assessment of their world is inaccurate, therefore creating negative thought patterns? It's easy for us to recognize other people's negative words and behaviors but are you aware of how you are perceived by others?

It can be difficult for us to analyze our own behaviors. It's even more difficult to accept that we may have a problem accurately perceiving social clues or situations. And even worse is when someone tries to point it out we can become defensive of our behavior. Every behavior originates with a perception/thought. If that perception is misread or inaccurate, the words and actions that follow can be damaging to your own psyche and to the people around you.

Here are some ways to identify problematic behavior patterns:

  • Critical - This individual infrequently has something nice to say about someone. They rarely offer compliments and even criticize their own friends, coworkers, or family. They have a difficult time processing other people’s success especially that of their friends and may even have trouble paying commendations to others who have achieved success.
  • Judgmental - This person has a difficult time with people who are different than they are. They see someone, quickly make a subjective assessment of that person, and pass judgment on them. This individual even believes that others are constantly judging them.
  • Few friends – If misperceptions are habitual, this individual can behave in a way that isolates them from others or turns others off. Initial meetings can be fun and exciting but misperceiving others can cause this person to become defensive and not giving others the benefit of the doubt.
  • Sarcasm – At times sarcasm comes across as funny but at other times the sarcasm can be used as a hurtful tool that eventually becomes ugly and directed at others.
  • Withholds information about themselves – This person is often interested in knowing about the goals and plans of others but they rarely reveal anything about themselves.
  • Questions – This individual asks many questions. They take in the information and use it to compare themselves to others and it’s possible that they develop jealousies that can hinder their ability to think positively.
  • Complain- This individual frequently twists conversations into an opportunity to complain about something. This person is a great fault-finder.

    What I have provided above are just some ways to identify any possibility that you may be falling into a category that can cloud your ability to think positively and be true to self. You can also use this information to recognize behaviors in others that are suggestive of negative perceptions. Be careful when associating with these kinds of people. If you can help them to achieve a higher level of consciousness, then by all means reach out to them. If not be wary - they may not be able to help to a higher level of existence.

    Remember, change begins with us.

    To Your Success
    Audrey Marlene

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