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Audrey Marlene's YES Ezine
May 15, 2008

Personal Growth Brings Satisfaction

"Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life." - Herbert Otto

I recently mourned the death of one of my dear friends. As I listened to the wonderful comments made by so many as to the kind of person he was, I stopped for a moment to look inside myself to see who I am. There was enormous room for personal growth in my life. Is there room for improvement in your life? Let us take a moment to learn how we can grow to become the person we hope to be.

We all want to be the best that we can be. We sometimes see others and admire certain characteristic traits about them. We have read volumes of self-help books in hopes of fine-tuning ourselves. True many of these books help but self-growth goes way beyond reading books. It means we must stop wishing for change and becomes proactive in creating the change. Self-growth is about change.

In order for change to take place within you, you must first define your objectives. Know what changes you want to make. You are aware of the qualities you want to discard from your life. Write them down. Here are some ways to begin to do some introspective work to help you to define the changes you want to make in your life.

  • Define your character. Who are you when no one is looking?
  • Make a list of some habits youíve often wanted to change.
  • Do you know how you are perceived? Try to get a feel of how others think of you. Make a note of how you want to be perceived and how to can adjust your behavior patterns to achieve that.
  • Make mental notes of how you treat others.
  • Think back to criticisms you have received in the past to see if there may be some truth to it. Speak to an objective friend.
  • Observe the behaviors of those you admire and make a note.
  • Make a note of behaviors you see in others that you dislike and look within to see if you share any of those traits. Try to be objective.
  • How is your health? Are you doing everything possible to take care of your body?
  • How would your friends, coworkers, people who come in contact describe you?
  • How is your mind? Are you emotionally strong? Is your self-confidence and self-esteem at an all time high? If not, would you like to find emotional balance?
  • How is your spiritual health? Do you feed your spiritual need? How is your soulís condition?
  • How do you treat others? Are you kind or are you condescending to people? Do you give of your time to help others that are less fortunate or has self-centeredness consumed you?
  • How is your ego? Is it intact? Are you humble or are you into flaunting it or showing off?
  • Are you a good parent? Do you put in the time to raise emotionally balanced children? Do you help them to define their lifeís expectations?

    As you look inside it is important to understand that there is no single recipe that defines how each person can grow personally. It is a hunger for change and a willingness to keep at it no matter if it takes a lifetime. Remember you are not trying to achieve perfection; you are only striving to be the best that you can be.

    To Your Success
    Audrey Marlene

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