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Audrey Marlene's YES Ezine
August 15, 2009

Power of Words

August 2009 Newsletter

"Speech is the mirror of the soul; as a man speaks, so he is" -Publilius Syrus

Do you remember when you were taught the famous comeback as a kid "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me"? We all know how far from the truth that saying is. We are all aware of the enormous power of words and what it means to the person on the receiving end. I'm sure you have been the recipient of words of wisdom, words of encouragement, or words of praise. On the other hand we have all experienced condescending words, words that hurt, words that destroyed our spirit, or words that have made us angry.

Words that are badly chosen can slaughter your passion, lower your sense of worth, and sabotage your level of enthusiasm. This can retard your progress and produce anemic results. Words that are well chosen can stimulate the psyche, rekindle enthusiasm, generate more insight and vision, increase your expectations, and produce greater, more positive outcomes.

The spoken word you choose creates an impression of you and the image you want to portray. If you want to be perceived in a certain way, the words you choose can help you or hurt you. If you want to make and keep friends your spoken word can make it happen. If you want to influence others, choose carefully your words. If you want to drive them away, don't.

Words have the power to ruin relationships. If words are not chosen carefully, relationships can be destroyed, jobs can be lost, or customers can leave. Remember in life we are constantly engaged in relationships with people. Many of these relationships can promote our success in life. It is of utmost importance that our words are chosen wisely to build relationships and not destroy them.

Our spoken word could mean the difference between failure and success. In choosing more carefully your words it's essential to envision the impact you want to have on the people around you. Let's look at some common negative words we use and how we can make better choices.

  • Change "Problems" to "Challenges". By looking at the situation as a challenge it is perceived as temporary and solvable.
  • Change "I can't" to "I can" or "I will".
  • Change "Should Have" to "Could Have". By doing so it removes guilt and shame and puts no one down.
  • Change "Always" to "Often" and "Never" to "Seldom". These two words are exaggerated words and do not convey an accurate meaning. They cause others to become defensive and you seldom get the results you need.
  • Change "Mistakes" to "Life's Lessons". This removes the guilt and shame and allows us to learn from the past.

    Remember, a positively spoken word is a powerful affirmation. It can replace any subconscious cues that have the potential to sabotage your success in life. Become more aware of the negative words you say and try to catch yourself saying them.

    The spoken word has the power to play a destructive or constructive role in your life. I hope I have helped to bring more awareness to the power of words that flow from you and the impact it has on your world. Always remember to THINK before you discharge your words.

    To Your Success
    Audrey Marlene

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