By Audrey Marlene
Imagine that your friend is down on herself and you want to encourage her by saying positive things to buoy her spirits. What are some of the things you will say to make her feel better? You may begin to think of her positive traits, her wonderful characteristics, and you may even give examples of her thoughtfulness.
The same thing goes for self. When you feel down or begin to doubt yourself, you also need to find words of encouragement to redirect your focus and stimulate positive thoughts within you. Talk yourself into feeling better. Allow the continuous flow of positive talk to replace your negative inner critic at work. Positive affirmations through self-talk helps to produce positive thinking.
When you talk to yourself in positive ways, this doesn't mean you're crazy. It only means:
- You have found a brilliant way to motivate yourself.
- You know how to positively reinforce your own efforts.
- You are constantly reminding you of how capable you are.
- You are overcoming your self-doubts and accentuating your strength and skills.
- You are boosting your self-confidence.
- You are staying true to your goals.
- You are a winner!
Logically and rationally explain situations to yourself. Do it continuously making it a daily habit. It will propel you to new heights.
Benefits of Positive Affirmations
Success in life depends to a great extent on a positive state of mind. In order to accomplish any goal you must be optimistic and motivated to take action. It's almost impossible to accomplish great things in a negative mindset. There are times when discouragements and doubts set in and you are the only one available to bolster your spirits and get you motivated again. This is where the positive self-talk comes in handy.
Let us examine some common doubts and self-criticism and how to counter them with positive self-talk.
Negative thought: I can't make it to the gym today. I don't feel like it.
Positive self-talk: I can do this. I know once I get to the gym I will feel better. Come on, let's go. I can, I can, I can do this.
Negative thought: I'm never going to finish this project on time.
Positive Self-talk: "I know I can finish this project on time. I will do 1 more hour each day so I know I can pull it off. I can do this. I know I can. I will get this done."
Negative thought: I can never get anything rightPositive self-talk: " I know for a fact I can do this - I know I have unlimited potential."
Negative thought: I am not good at anything, I wish I were ______.
Positive self-talk: "I am capable. In the past I have been able to do____ and ____. I know I'm good and I can do anything I want. Yes, I can.
Negative thought: When something goes wrong you say "How can I be so stupid."Positive self-talk: "I am definitely going to learn a lot from this."
The above are just some ideas of how to go about feeding positive information to you. Do this as many times you can throughout your day. Let it become habit forming. Try as hard as you can to avoid words such as:
By continuously repeating affirmations to self your:
- problems will be seen as challenges and you are placed in a better position to confront difficult situations with ease
- perception of you will drastically improve each day. The new, positive affirmations will replace the negative way of thinking.
- confidence in your ability will increase. You may begin to see your true capabilities and earn more self-respect.
- your self-esteem will improve
- your overall state of well-being can improve
- you can gain more friends and influence others
- you can have more self-control and discipline
- you can achieve more
Science Behind Positive Affirmations
Through positive self-talk, we feed positive recognition of self to our subconscious. Once the self-talk is continuous, over time our conscious mind takes action and our behavior changes. New neural pathways begin to develop and a new way of thinking emerges. This is a conditioning technique that you can use to self-motivate.
The same works for negative self-talk. The inner critic slowly feeds negative feedback to the subconscious and before long your start believing the negative self-talk. Your persona changes and a downward spiral begin to take place in your life. The doldrums set in, self-doubt, weakened self-confidence, and then it becomes even more difficult to climb out of it.
We become what we feed our minds. Positive self-talk only works if you truly believe what you are telling yourself. If your affirmations are not genuine, the subconscious knows and they would not be effective. You must believe the affirmations! They must be spoken without any doubt and with complete sincerity.
Positive self-talk only works when it is consistent. If conditioning must take effect it has to be continuous. The neurochemical pathways in the brain are reinforced with daily repetition of positive feedback to self. The subconscious can let go of the negative beliefs and they become slowly replaced by the positive information received. Post reminders in your car, office, at home, or school. Allow the visual cues to trigger affirmative statements of your worth.
Your attitude is a reflection of your thought process. You are what you think. The mental food your feed the mind determines your actions and behaviors. Feed positive affirmations and reap positive results.
Give Positive Affirmations
The wonderful thing about positive self-talk is that is comes from within you. You get the credit for motivating you, which is an empowering feeling. It is an opportunity to use the power within you to bring about valuable changes in your life.
The following are tips on how to carry out positive self-affirmations:
1. Always use the first person singular pronoun "I" when giving self-affirmations. Remember the affirmations are only to self, so they must be subjective in nature and addressed to you. This personalizes the affirmation and allows more conscious awareness of the constructive feedback. This slowly replaces the negative beliefs lodged in the subconscious.
2. The positive self-talk must be brief, short, positive statements. It must be easy to remember, powerful, concise verbalizations that can be repeated continuously like a mantra. For example, I am a good person, I am positive, I am ambitious, and I am motivated.
3. Positive affirmations must be spoken in the present tense. This means the feedback is already occurring. It is not something that will occur in the future or has happened and continues to happen. For example, avoid statements that begin with "I am going to", or "I would like to."
4. Positive self-talk must be realistic and believable. You cannot trick your subconscious into believing something that is not so. You also cannot believe other peoples criticisms of you. You must be real and true to self. Be open to receiving the truth about you and believe it.
5. Give yourself reminders. Use small post it notes to remind you of positive self-talk. Every time you find yourself saying something negative about yourself turn it around and replace it with something positive. Let this be habit forming.
Here is a list of some positive affirmations:
- I am beautiful
- I am special
- I am unique
- I am a winner
- I am courageous
- I am lovable
- I am fun and spontaneous
- I am strong
- I am proud of who I am
- I take care of my health
- I am grateful for all that I have
- I am highly capable
- I am kind and compassionate
- I reach out to my community
Begin today to empower yourself by using positive self-talk and
Observe the transformation taking place in your life and give yourself the credit.
Quotes on Positive Affirmations "Positive thinking is expecting, talking and visualizing with certainty what you want to achieve, as an accomplished fact." - Remez Sasson "A man is what he thinks about all day long." - Ralph Waldo Emerson "Whenever a negative thought concerning your personal power comes to mind, deliberately voice a positive thought to cancel it out." - Norman Vincent Peale "Don’t ask "why", ask instead, "why not"." - John F. Kennedy "Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results." - Willie Nelson "When you cannot get a compliment any other way, pay yourself one." – Mark Twain "A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes." - Mahatma Gandhi "Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives." – William James "The greatest gift is a portion of thyself." -Ralhp Waldo Emerson "Affirm the positive, visualize the positive and expect the positive, and your life will change accordingly." -Remez Sasson
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