Understand Your Child's Developmental Stages!


Knowing the developmental stages of your child is the first step in getting to understand your child. As a parent, you must be aware of the physical and emotional changes that accompany these developmental stages and make the necessary adjustments in the way you handle your child.

You observe your children growing physically and getting bigger before your eyes each day. As they grow physically, there are certain language, behavioral, intellectual, and cognitive milestones your child is also undergoing. By understanding these milestones, you will be able to interact with your child appropriately.

As these developmental stages change, your parenting styles must become more adaptable. Of course your values and morals will remain the same but your method of delivery and communication should evolve. You have to grow along with your children. Go back to when you were that age and how it was for you. Don’t forget that the influences on today’s children are far greater than when you were that age. Be more empathetic.

Another important reason for understanding the developmental stages of your child is to keep an eye out for any developmental delays. If you are uncertain about these changes, speak to your child’s pediatrician.

As you child approaches the preteen years, it is even more important to understand these developmental stages. Most people buy into the belief that the teenage years are years to be afraid of. Many parents begin to put on amour as if planning for a war. Some parents already get on the defensive expecting the worse. True, these are years that can be trying. True, your authority will be challenged. But why? The teenage years are inevitable. Your child finds herself going through several physical changes. Everyone sees this physically, larger person and suddenly there are much higher expectations.

  • The child is expected to act like an adult.

  • The child is expected to assume more responsibilities.

  • The child is expected to know adult protocols.

  • The child is expected to know appropriate social protocols.

  • The child is expected to be more independent.

  • The child is expected to be more self-motivated

    How can you the parent have these expectations of your child if she hasn’t been taught these things?

    These teenage years are a time to teach you children how to become adults. They need loving guidance but not in the same way as when they were 8 years old. Your children need to be heard, to feel that you respect and value their input. They need to be allowed more freedoms to assert their independence but knowing you are lovingly watching, not judgingly, if they need your help. And when they make mistakes, don’t condemn, teach. Mentor your child on what she could have done differently to get the outcome she desired. If handled correctly, the teenage years can be the most beautiful years with your child.

    Understanding your child’s developmental stages allows you

  • The ability to adapt and make changes in your parenting styles.

  • The opportunity to learn new ways of communicating.

  • The chance to teach them to become independent.

  • Custom design a strategy to fit the needs of each child.

  • Understand how to motivate your children.

  • The chance to guide them in the social changes they undergo.

  • The time to know how they think.

  • The influences they are exposed to and the peer pressures.

    If you do not adapt to fit the needs of your child's development, you will have a difficult time parenting your child. You will face conflict and resistance from your child. Parenting will become troublesome and weary and you and your children will miss out on some of life’s most beautiful moments.

    When you can understand the developmental stages of your children, you will begin to enjoy each phase of their lives. You role as parent will be the most rewarding. Your children will thrive and blossom into well-rounded adults.

    No one ever said that parenting is easy. No one expects you to be the perfect parent. We all try to do the best we can. However, it is important to know there is help available. Please contact me if you need help.

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