Become a Great Listener !

Great Listener Many people spend too much time talking and less time listening. Being a great learner and communicator means becoming a great listener. In today's fast-pace society, listening has become even more difficult as we multi-listen to someone standing in front us, to the person on the cell, and at the same time trying to listen to the breaking news on TV. Becoming a good listener is not a simple task. For many of us this is much easier said than done. However, the art of actively listening can improve your business, career, relationships, and your overall life in ways you cannot even imagine.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation and thought that the other person knows your whole life story and you know nothing about that person? For some people, talking excessively can be a bad habit. They spend more time talking about themselves and their accomplishments while forgetting to even ask how the other person is doing. When one talks excessively they become very transparent with little mystique and mystery. The person on the receiving end can become turned off or sizes you up instantly and yet you know very little about them. Think about how you are perceived when you very rarely listen and only speak? Remember we have 2 ears and 1 tongue - any questions?

Some people listen only for their turn to speak. That is the extent of their listening ability. If you are one of these people, you are guaranteed to lose out on many important details that can advance your goals. To listen means absorbing what the speaker is saying by allowing your brain to interpret the meaning of the words and sentences said. Once understood a great listener will most likely have questions or a comment about what's been said. Or if the great listener didn't understand, they would ask for clarification. When one listens it shows respect and interest in what the speaker has to say.

Being a good listener means:

  • Feeling confident so you are not competing to get your story told or to be heard.

  • Giving up the need to control the conversation.

  • Genuine interest in what someone has to say and hearing the words that are spoken.

  • Processing the information attached to the words while maintaining eye contact.

  • Getting a feel for what the person is trying to say.

  • Getting clues and insightful information ahead of time.

  • Using the information said to get a sense of who is speaking, how they perceive a situation, their reasoning ability, their fears, their wit, their open-mindedness, and their objectives.

  • Listening to what is implied. This can give you many insights into the person who are dealing with.

  • Looking for something worthwhile in what is being said and respecting the speaker’s point of view even though you may not agree.

  • Building a relationship of trust with the speaker by paying full attention to what is being said.

  • Questioning why the speaker is sharing with you this information and how you can help.

    Whatever your goals are in life, becoming a good listener will only advance you. A good listener is like a magnet that draws others to them more easily than someone who dominates a conversation with unlimited rhetoric. Remember that success requires the ability to build relationships and being a great listener one sure way to build relationships.

    Make it your conscious goal to become a better listener today.