Humility Fosters Success
By Audrey Marlene
Humility is a very attractive quality. It means staying confident and poised while putting away arrogance and boastfulness as we achieve our goals. When the humble person accomplishes bigger career opportunities and more wealth, they can still maintain a modest attitude and not see themselves as superior to others.
The humble person is not: Arrogant Egotistical Self-absorbed Conceited Acting Superior Aggressive
A humble character is a vital component for achieving success in all areas of life. It is an unspoken inner strength that doesn’t require the need for praise. It should not be mistaken for shyness or introversion. The humble person appears cool and confident as they work to achieve, never boastful but good-naturedly moving forward. They feel so secure within themselves there is no need to brag.
The humble person is: An example of greatness Quietly confident Respectful to others no matter at what level they have achieved Aware of his/her humanity, having the willingness to go the extra mile to help others without question. Knows how to live in peace and harmony with others Knows how to encourage others without putting them down.
How is your level of humility? Are you secure enough within yourself to maintain a spirit of humility?
At the very core of a humble person is an inner strength powered by high self-esteem. Someone who has a true sense of self has no need to feel insecure. Insecurities lead to self-centeredness, arrogance, feelings of superiority, and boastfulness.
When one has low self-esteem the need to feel important by others is exaggerated. This high need prompts the individual to brag, or act in arrogant ways or even tell half-truths to fill that need. When self-esteem is high, the need to feel important by those around is replaced by the self-importance that is felt within. This self-importance that's experienced creates a strong feeling of security, which generates that inner, unspoken confidence. That quiet confidence translates into humility.
A secure, accurate sense of self has no room for selfish pride. Feeling pride in our achievements and that of our family's is not what I refer to. It's great to feel proud and to give positive reinforcement to self or loved ones for a job well done. However, pride that's used to make condescending comparisons to others show little modesty and little humility.
It is important to realize how a strong sense of self can change our entire outlook in so many areas of our lives, especially in the area of humbleness. If you feel you need help to improve your self-esteem in order to achieve a sense of humility, don't put it off, it could be the missing link to your success.
According to Wikipedia, the characteristic of a humble person is defined by unpretentious and modest qualities and not by feelings of superiority where one thinks that he or she is better or more important than others. Pride on the other hand is a feeling of power where one believes he or she can do no wrong and that the whole world revolves around the individual.
Society honors the proud with many accolades and praise. As a culture we prefer to associate with the wealthy, the people in society who are well-known and can lend us a sense of prominence and pride. Some regard associating with the average person as beneath them and in order to maintain their status or pride they neglect these people.
Is pride getting in the way of your ability to be humble? How can you tell if you are consumed with excess pride or humility? Let's take a look. Are you generous? Humility is a prerequisite for generosity. Are you a know-it-all, having the answer for everything? Do you most often expect to have everything go just the way you want it to even at the expense of others? Do you feel you are above the law? Do you have a difficult time associating with people who don’t share your ideas or opinions? Do you get angry when someone challenges your opinion? Are you condescending to others, talking down to them as if they are beneath you?
Take a moment to do an honest appraisal of yourself. There have been times in my life where I was able to answer yes to many of the above questions. The first step is to recognize the distasteful characteristics and be willing to make the necessary changes in your life. Admitting them makes you a strong person and puts you on the path to being more humble.
The humble person is more content with life in general. Humble people are generally known to have more success with relationships. They are not too uptight and can live more in the present. The humble person has a tendency to be more objective. He or she is more receptive to other people’s ideas and opinions and has the potential to grow and develop must faster then the person who is not humble.
Have you had a chance to look inside? Is there room for some
Are you willing to admit this or is self getting in your way? Take a look below at some ways you can introduce more humbleness in your life. Work to improve your self-esteem. When self-esteem is high self-value is high and insecurities are low. The secure person is a humble person. Become a better listener. Don’t be too anxious to be heard. Speak less and listen more. Listen to what others are trying to say to you and try to reciprocate positively. When you catch yourself speaking about yourself, pull back. Be on the alert. If you are truly as great as you think you are others will recognize it without you having to say much. Let go of the know-it-all attitude and be open to other people’s suggestion or opinions. Listen and then consider what is being said.
Strengthen your spiritual life. A full spiritual life gives more balance to you life and less room for conceit. Understand that you are human and you do make mistakes. It’s ok to make mistakes – that’s how we grow and learn. It’s not a sign of weakness. I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t make mistakes. Compare less and celebrate more. Don’t fall into the comparison trap, comparing you with other people’s talents and material possessions. Instead celebrate the unique you and your talents and give thanks for what you have. And most importantly give of yourself in service to others. This is the fastest and best way to become humble. A generous person is a humble person.
Quotes on Humility "It is always the secure who are humble." — Gilbert Keith Chesterton "Humility is to make a right estimate of oneself." — Charles H. Spurgeon "What kills a skunk is the publicity it gives itself." — Abraham Lincoln "To become truly great, one has to stand with people, not above them." — Charles de Montesquieu "Humility is at the equilibrium of ego. When we’re on center, we manage our ego rather than it managing us." — Steve Smith "A man wrapped up in himself makes a very small bundle." — Benjamin Franklin "Humility is the only true wisdom by which we prepare our minds for all the possible changes of life." -— George Arliss "Don't talk about yourself; it will be done when you leave." -— Wilson Mizner "Humility makes great men twice honorable." -— Benjamin Franklin "Egotism is the anesthetic that dulls the pain of stupidity." -— Frank Leahy "Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are." -— Malcolm S. Forbes
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