Motivate Your Child!

Motivate Your Child


How do you motivate your child?

There are few children that are naturally motivated. It is the responsibility of the parent to establish methods and systems to encourage and motivate their child. Children are blank slates and do not understand the importance of setting goals and achieving them. It is important for you to explain to your child why she has to go to school or why she he has to maintain good grades.

If you want to motivate your child, you must be motivated. Your child must see you involved in something productive and achieving your goals.

Many parents motivate through threats, intimidation and ultimatums. If this is your strategy it's a sure way to demotivate your child.

Ways a parent can demotivate a child.

  • Talking down to children, in a condescending way

  • Loses temper very easily and screams

  • Threatens the child

  • Compares children with their friends or cousins

  • Shows no interest in their efforts

  • Very critical of the child

  • Offers no praise, encouragement or reward

  • Interrupts the child. Doesn't allow the child to express his/herself freely

  • Spanking or treats of spanking

  • The parent lacks motivation, has not set goals or structure

    There are several ways to motivate your child. However, you must understand and accept that this is something you must begin very early in the child's life. You cannot neglect to motivate your child when she is 3 or 5 years old and all of a sudden begin at 9 or 10. You will face resistance from your child.

    Strategic Ways To Motivate Your Child.

  • Are you a motivated person? Do you have goals and aspire to them? Remember you are your child's model. Share with your children your goals and let them see and know each time you achieve them. You can motivate your children through your example.

  • Develop structure in your child's life. Psychologists suggest that children perform better all around when they are part of a structured environment.

  • Assign short-term goals for your child to attain to. Find an age appropriate goal for each child.

  • Speak to you child about what she wants to be when she grows up. Begin this discussion at an early age. This instills ambition and goal setting in your child. It helps them to begin to set standards and expectations in their minds.

  • Focus on strengths of your children. Identify them and encourage your children to develop them.

  • Recognize the weaknesses of your child and obtain the necessary help to improve them. Be patient! Avoid screaming or talking down to your child when you know it may be a weakness.

  • When your children make a mistake, use it as an opportunity to teach them lessons about life. Do not scream at them. Your children need to know that it's okay to mess up. Then teach them how to avoid making that error in the future. Make sure your children have a plan for the next time they have to encounter that situation again. Remember it's about teaching/mentoring and not ridiculing.

  • Read books to your children. Read inspirational books. Find age appropriate books on what they want to be when they grow up. When they are able to read, encourage them to read. Take them to the book store to select the books they want to read.

  • Find an activity for your children to excel in. Encourage them, praise them, support them, and reward them for their efforts and progress.

  • Seek help when you children needs it. If they need help with homework, find a tutor. Don't expect miracles from your child. Obtain the support they need to excel so frustration doesn't set in.

  • Stay involved in your child's schoolwork. The more interest you show is the more interest your child will have. Sit with them if you have the time, even you are just reading a book.

  • Praise your children for their achievements, no matter how small. Praise them in the presence of your immediate family and extended family. When you make a big deal about their successes, not matter how small, it pumps them up to do it again and makes them aware of your standards and expectations for them.

  • Pray with your children. Let them pray with you. Show them how to ask for divine guidance in their lives to be able to achieve all their goals.

  • Remind your children every chance you get of what a special gift they are to you.

    Each of the above requires a different approach for each child depending on the personality of the child and the age of the child. If you need help find a parenting coach to assist you or feel free to contact me. You must devise a plan to motivate your child. before it's too late.

    You cannot delay. The longer you wait, the older they become and more resistance you will get from your child. At that point it will require much more effort to motivate your child.

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