A Plan for Raising Children?
True raising children does not come with a training manual or a set blueprints. Each child is different and unique in their own way. A new set of rules must be designed for raising each one..
However, there must be a plan for raising your child. Some parents only see a plan as a financial plan. As a parent you must have ambitions, goals, and aspirations for your child. Raising a child means much more than providing money, a home, clothing, food and sending them to school. Raising children also means your vision for your child. Who are you raising your child to become?
Stop for a moment and think of whom you will like to see your child become as an adult. Do you want her to be kind, loving, considerate, and peace loving? If you do, what are you doing as a parent to instill these qualities in your child? What is your plan for helping your child to become this person?
The plan for raising children should also include what you envision your child's profession to be. Be realistic in your vision. If you see your child as a teacher, are you doing what is takes to guide your child towards achieving that goal? If you would like to see your child as a humanitarian, are you guiding your child in that direction? If you see your child as a doctor, what plan do you have in place for helping your child? Now having a vision and ambitions for your child doesn’t mean that you stay rigid and inflexible. You must first be commended if you have goals for your child. However, you must understand that while having expectations for your child, you are raising a human being. Your child has feelings, a mind to think, or a developing cognition, a sense of pride, a struggle within for an identity or independence. You are not raising a robot. You must learn how to guide your child towards the direction and expectations you have for them but at the same time, doing it in a way that will avoid conflict or resistance. The bottom line is that you want them to respond to your guidance. You want them to adhere to your plan. But how? 
For those of you still struggling with a developing a plan, get help. Your child’s future is something to be taken seriously. When raising children, it is much easier to implement your plan as early as possible in your child's life. Every morning I go running in the park. I see the trees along the way, some nicely pruned and formed properly and others growing wild, with branches interfering with the power lines and no pleasant shape whatsoever. So it is with children. In raising children, it is very difficult to introduce changes as they grow older. You get more resistance, conflict, and frustration for you and your child. As a life coach for parents, I present this parenting information to create in you more awareness for making and implementing your plans for your child as soon as possible. Please contact me if you feel you cannot do it alone. For Questions or Comments, Click
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