Improving Self-Confidence



Self-confidence means feeling capable, certain of your abilities, and feeling sure of yourself. Confidence is an admirable quality and is easy to detect. On the contrary, a lack of confidence is triggered by feelings of doubt, insecurity, and feeling unsure of yourself.

How would you rate your level of confidence on a scale of 1 - 10?
In my personal experience and from observing my clients, the best way to build self-confidence and overcome fear is to begin by doing something you feel capable of doing. Someone once said "when in doubt, just take the next small step." Once you have accomplished it, the feeling it brings will give you a boost in your confidence to try a more challenging task.

Self-confidence is undermined when you set unrealistic goals or attempt unattainable tasks. This will overwhelm you and create enormous amounts of doubt. Begin with a small task that you feel absolutely certain you will be able to tackle and accomplish. When completed, the feeling of achievement will fuel your confidence and propel you the the next level. Recognize your limitations and be patient. Each step builds greater self-confidence.

As you live your life each day avoid comparing your accomplishments with that of others. Stick to what you are doing and realize that each person is at a different stage of their life's journey or operates at a different level of functionality.

As a life strategist, I encourage you to focus on your strengths and develop your weaknesses by learning more, taking a class, or a self-development course. Get on the internet, do the research, learn everything there is to know about your subject matter. Consult with an expert in the field or read as many books as you can to learn from people who have achieved success in your area. Success always leaves clues so look for them. This kind of knowledge will empower you and give you the confidence to attempt the big tasks.

Surround yourself by people who can encourage and support your efforts in building your self-confidence. Avoid critical people who are jealous, sarcastic, negative and who undermine your efforts. These people inject poisons into you psyche and subconsciously sabotage you. You can sense the people who are supportive of you.

Remember no one else can do it for you. You have to be willing to take risks in life if you must attain your goals. Take a chance and break out of that comfort zone that keeps you paralyzed. Think of the potted plant that has outgrown its pot. How can it blossom and prosper living in the same, confining pot? It can't! It is only when the plant is transplanted into a new environment, a larger pot or good fertilizer, and more sunshine that it flourishes. So it is with us as humans. Some kind of change in our thinking or our environment can produce exponential results in our ability to feel more capable and certain of who we are.

Each day is a new opportunity to improve you life and build your self-confidence. Do the best you can but remember you will make mistakes. When building self-confidence you cannot be afraid to make mistakes. Mistakes are only human. This how how we learn. So pick yourself back up, dust yourself off and grasp at every chance to learn and keep trying. NEVER GIVE UP!

Believe that you can achieve your goals. Believe that if you begin with the small tasks and conquer them, you will develop the self-confidence to tackle the big stuff. Repeat to yourself on a daily basis "I can do it."

How badly do you want to build your emotional intelligence? It means building your level of self-confidence. Set your goals, do the research, and BEGIN!

Strategies for Building Confidence:

I. Smile

Stand in front of the mirror and practice your smile because you will be using it every day. This in no way makes your narcissistic. Look at how better your appearance is when you smile. Smiling automatically puts you in a positive frame of mind. It's a sure indication of how confident and happy someone is.

Every opportunity you get to walk by a mirror, smile and feel the psychological and physiological effects on you. You will feel a change in your attitude and it brings more positive experiences to your life. I know, sometimes we forget, but just keep working at it. Observe the reactions of others when you smile at them. Some will smile back while others will give you a strange look. Help someone to smile by smiling at them.

Feel the smile within and let it radiate outwards. It will soon become a habit and enhance your level of confidence. Be known as someone with a chronic smile. It's a great thing to be known for!

II. Practice good Posture

A slouch is a great indicator of someone with little self-confidence. Unless you have an ailment, you should learn to walk upright again. Begin by looking in the mirror at your profile. Notice your slouch and learn to stand upright, with abs in, chest up, and shoulders relaxed. Think about someone you see walking into a room with great posture. Now think of another person walking in the room with a slouch. What are your impressions? Which person exudes more confidence? Walking tall always gets you noticed! It gives you a taller, slimmer appearance, and it speaks volumes about your self-confidence.

III. Excel in Something

We all have talents and unique abilities. Discover them and find ways to develop them. You don't have to become an expert at something to feel confident but using your talents and abilities and showcasing them brings more confidence.

IV. Gain Knowledge

Learn something new each day. A stagnant mind is an unsure mind. An active mind is an empowered mind. A feeling of empowerment promotes confidence.

V. Care for Yourself

Caring for your physical self through diet and regular exercise brings a feeling of satisfaction that translates into confidence. Exercise increases concentrations of serotonin and endorphins, which stimulates the sympathetic nervous system and rewards us with a feeling of euphoria and confidence.

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