By Audrey Marlene

The Self Manager

In order to achieve your desired goals and for self-improvement to occur you must manage your life effectively. When some people hear the word "management" they most often think of business managers and seldom see themselves in a management role when it comes to their lives.

All facets of our lives, personal, professional or academic, requires us to manage many variables. You are in a position of management and if seen in this light your tasks can be executed more efficiently. This is critical to self-improvement.

Here are some areas you must consistently manage in order to bring about more positive results in your live:

  • Managing your thoughts. Are you critical of self? Do you encourage thoughts that promote your success?

  • Managing your words and your ability to communicate them. Do you choose carefully the words you speak to enhance your success?

  • Managing your actions and behaviors? How are you perceived by others? How do you want to be perceived?

  • Organizing and planning ahead in order to self-manage more effectively.

  • Maintaining your focus on the task at hand. Follow through to completion.

  • Managing your time.

  • Managing your physical self? What habits do you implement to promote a healthy lifestyle?

  • Managing your spiritual self. How do you fill your spiritual need?

    Improving your ability to self-manage sets the platform for high achievement in your personal, professional or academic life. Use this article to think about the role in which you serve - the individual, entrepreneur, employee, spouse, parent, or student. How do you self-manage in order to move closer to reaching all your goals?


    The first step in self-improvement is to compartmentalize and organize your life. Organizing yourself allows you to stay on top of every aspect of your life. A cluttered lifestyle creates a flustered life. A disorganized life depletes your mental resources and slows down your progress.

    When you life is not organized you can become extremely forgetful. You may have a tendency to forget important deadlines, appointments, names of people, or misplace things. This brings on anxiety and before your know it your plans for achieving your goals are in jeopardy.

    Here are some tips to get you started in self-organizing.

  • Begin with a list of all your responsibilities both personal and otherwise.

  • Organize that list based on urgency and priority. If money making is the priority those projects should come at the top followed by the next most important and so on.

  • Allow sufficient time to tackle your most important projects but do not neglect the less important ones otherwise they will accumulate and can create emergencies. Do a little each day.

  • Be aware and keep track of your daily, weekly, monthly plans both personally and otherwise.

  • Use a planner. Don't rely on your memory. Plan your "to do" list for the next day the evening/night before. Know exactly how much time is required for each task so you can manage your time effectively. Carry your planner to keep you reminded of your commitment for that day. Cross off the items you have completed for each day.

  • Set up a filing system where you can easily access all your ongoing projects. Make sure to keep up with your filing or you may find that things can get misplaced very easily.

  • Allow the computer to be your friend. You can do a lot of your leg work via the web.

    By organizing your life your role as self-manager becomes less stressful. It simplifies your life while achieving the results you desire. It allows your mind to be free of clutter so you can work more efficiently. Then you can begin to observe the self-improvement taking place.

    Self-Improvement through State Management

    One of the biggest tasks we as human beings have is managing our state of mind. The ability to manage your state of mind will determine the degree of success and positive outcomes you will achieve.

    It is a very difficult thing for us to recognize our state of mind and the thoughts that follow. Our state of mind is created by our beliefs. Our belief system is the filter for our perceptions and our thoughts. Negative thoughts bring negativity such as sadness, anger, depression, illnesses, and fear. It doesn't matter how well you can organize your life, if negative thoughts exist and persist your success voyage will be short.

    A healthy belief system provides healthy filters though which we can perceive the world accurately. An accurate perception triggers positive, optimistic thoughts. Positive thoughts boost your success and happiness. Because positive thoughts generate positive actions, they create a productive environment from which to operate. Please click here for tips on how to manage your unhelpful thoughts.

    The ability to manage your state of mind can have far-reaching effects in your life. You will have greater control over your physical self and your health by releasing the beliefs and thoughts that hold you back. By managing your state, you can remove the thoughts that prevent you from becoming more aware of the importance of nurturing your spiritual health and how to maintain balance in your life. Your ability to concentrate and focus on the task at hand will improve drastically having control over any invading thoughts.

    If you truly want to become a better self-manager begin today to analyze your belief system. If self-improvement is a priority then becoming a better self-manager is critical.

    Credibility - Managing Your Reputation

    One major factor in self-improvement is your credibility. Credibility is your character, your reputation in the eyes of others. It is having qualities of being trustworthy, believable, fair, honest, or someone who can stand by their word. Your credibility determines your success. One critical aspect of self-management is being credible. It doesn't matter how organized you are or how much you can manage your time, if you are perceived as dishonest or your character is questionable, your success journey will be filled with huge potholes/deficits.

    Here are important guidelines to take into consideration as you manage your life and build your reputation.

  • Be polite. If you want others to be courteous and polite you first have to be courteous and polite. Show appreciation for the people around you. Say "thank you" with a genuine smile as often as possible.

  • Be consistent. When you take a stand stick with it. Avoid being known as a flip flopper.

  • Stand by your word. When you say you are going to do something, do it. People are so accustomed to hear "I'm going to" but seldom see the follow through. When you follow though it shows discipline and self-control, characteristics that build credibility. This credibility empowers you and earns you the respect of people you associate with, personally and professionally.

  • Be dependable. If you make a commitment to someone or something, deliver on time. If you promise to get in touch with someone, do so at a discretionary time. Follow up after meetings, keep in touch.

  • Be a role model. Being a leader and an inspiration to others builds sound credibility. This means doing what you expect and demand from those around you. If you expect your child to be a better reader you must become a better reader. If you expect your employees to have good work ethics, you must have good ethics. If you demand professionalism you must be a professional.

  • Dress accordingly. Depending on the reputation or image you are trying to convey you must take into account your appearance. Dress the way you want to be perceived.

  • Create a charismatic appeal. Be interesting and alluring. Keep up with topics you feel is important to your success and share them with the people around you. Make your contact with others comfortable, inspiring, and informative and keep them coming back for more.

    Above are some guidelines to take into consideration when self-managing. You are the only one who can build your credibility. You are the only one that can manage you. You are the only one in charge of your self-improvement. Keep you eye on the prize and remember:

    Quotes on Self Management

  • "The worst ruler is one who cannot rule himself." - Cato

  • "It is not enough to have great qualities; we should also have the management of them." - La Rochefoucauld

  • "I have been my own disciple and my own master. And I have been a good disciple but a bad master." - Antonio Porchia

  • "Govern thyself then you will be able to govern the world." -Anonymous

  • "Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power." - Lao Tzu

  • "We cannot always control our thoughts, but we can control our words, and repetition impresses the subconscious, and we are then master of the situation." - Jane Fonda

  • "You cannot be a leader, and ask other people to follow you, unless you know how to follow too." - Sam Rayburn

  • "I am, indeed, a king, because I know how to rule myself." - Pietro Aretino

  • "Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power." –Seneca

  • "He that would govern others, first should be the master of himself." - Philip Massinger

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